Self Confidence can never, ever be understated or hyped

Right from inspirational writers and speakers to psychic gurus, psychologists, corporate managers, educational institutions, all of them unanimously echo time and again that it is just self confidence that matters- nothing more, nothing less. And, it is so true!

But what stands out glaringly is the absence of self confidence almost everywhere. People seem to focus more on "appearing confident" and "happy" than to experience self confidence as a natural flow in life. Some imagine self confidence as the ability to speak aloud in big audience, while some imagine it to be a mask of indifference and show no emotion. Many equate self confidence with social acceptance. While self confidence may get you any or all of the above, these are not the parameters to gauge self confidence and are not even accurately reflective of your confidence levels.

Self confidence cannot be "acquired" from anywhere, anybody or anything. It inherently IS. The sooner you understand this, the closer you get to happiness. It is a simple faith that you have in yourself that you are correct, you are competent, you deserve all that you desire and you are LOVABLE.

But this simple faith is becoming increasingly difficult to hold on to. One of the main destructive agents is a judgmental society. People form opinions purely based on their perceptions and personal experiences, which cannot be generalized. They air/assert/ impose these opinions and impact the thought process in their circle. Everybody brings forth their own view points about what is "desirable", "acceptable", "good" etc, and discard other ways of thought and action as wrong/ unproductive/ misleading.

We, as social animals impact and get impacted by our environment. In this exchange of thoughts through words and deeds, an amalgamation happens and people accept thoughts that contradict their inherent understanding. Sometimes, the power of external thought is so powerful that it subdues an individual's latent understanding. These individuals are the ones who suffer the greatest risk of losing their self confidence by relying on mob judgment consciously or unconsciously.

But who suffers ultimately? ALL OF US, the society as whole, along with the individual. A society comprising of individuals with tampered self confidence is very weak and prone to collapsing even with minor disagreements or differences in opinions.

But what is the way out? How can we help ourselves out of this destructive spiral? We need not give up our faculties of judgment or stop ourselves from expressing what we feel. All we need is to incorporate the understanding that every single individual in the society is a part of the WHOLE, every one sees the world from THEIR own perspective and everyone, including self needs to be treated with respect and care. Although people have disagreements among themselves, it is important to note that everybody is right from their own perspectives. And you need not dismiss yourself to be aligned along some body else's lines. Just LIVE and LET LIVE. Follow your own heart, your own path, and just do whatever makes sense to you, while understanding that everyone around you also has these basic privileges.

the thin line.. can u discern???

courage and recklessness
confidence and arrogance
sensitive and touchy
humble and submissive
composed and passive
self control and self denial
inspired and influenced
questioning and doubting
religious and ritualistic
honesty and naivity
innocence and ignorance
being moderate and being mediocre
self love and self centeredness
self esteem and big ego
detachment from action and attachment to inaction
.......................

(all others u can think of.........)

the thin line is the same that distinguishes
strength from weakness,
love from non love,
baby from bath water,
master from slave,
freedom from bondage,
energy from inertia,
vidya from avidya and
life from death.....


It is not what the action that appears on the outside that matters, what matters is where YOU are......


Strength is life, weakness is death!!!

ode to time

time transforms an ugly caterpillar into a beautiful butterfly
time moulds an impish boy into a responsible man
time turns a damsel to an unstable old lady
time takes out from a tiny seed, a huge tree
time wipes tears and shatters fears
time heals the wounds that fate brings
time is the bridge between dreams and reality
time tags you to cares, and time relieves you of pains
time complicates and simplifies
time ticks your life at the pace of a day per 24 hrs, no matter whether u weep, wail or smile
time shows that life goes on, come what may
time dictates your stay
time creates desire and destroys it
time makes anything and anyone good or bad
wise ones understand this, from dust they come, unto dust they go, and make the most of their sojourn in time
they know, time n tide wait for none
n that time waste is life waste

Kaalaya namaha, kaalaateetaya namaha!!!

My Love.....

I was sitting on a bench looking for love....

out came a man, full of zeal, passion and energy
his love rushed, gushed, pushed and...... perished!

then came another, full of wit, charm and grace
his love sparkled, glittered, dazzled and... dulled!

another rolled in, full of sincerity, sweetness and straightforwardness
his love assumed, assured, accomodated and.... lulled!

I was still sitting there, on the bench, while each passing love left me wiser
there was the dance of love in varied colors and costumes that I witnessed,
so elusive, mysteriously slipped out of my hands everytime I reached for it to grasp,
or just frightened to suffocate me

then I sat still, continued to gaze, and asked my heart where it is- a love that energises, soothes, brightens, nourishes, stays and sustains.
awaiting an answer, I looked into my own heart
and voila! there it is!
has played hide and seek mischeivously, by projecting itself on the canvas in different vestures
it touched me with tenderness n stroked me with strength n assured me of its eternity
it springed from a source untraceable, sought channels to spread out
and reunite with itself, cased in the hearts of all around me!

Let go, Let god!

let go of the worry about things you cannot change, for worry alone does not change anything
let go of the fear of the unknown, for what we know is far too less
let go of resistance to pain and affinity to pleasure, like pain, pleasure also comes uninvited, let them not dictate ur decisions
let go of attachment to action and inaction, js do it (or dont do it)
let go of the negativity that holds u back, a wonderful world and a wonderful life is ahead!



Let god manifest through your actions as perfection
let god rule your life and enrich ur heart
let god shine through your character and illumine your heart
let god smile through you and spread love
let god be your strength, let not desperation for anything cloud your vision of god!

Be yourself, be happyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

who r u?

u work less than what u r paid for - u r a THIEF!
u work exactly for what u r paid - u r a SLAVE
u work to ur full capacity, n do more than wat u r paid for - u r the MASTER

not good enough???

In a small town, a little boy collected a heap of stones, all of different sizes, colours and shapes. He wanted to use them as paper weights.

Of all the stones, there was one big, granite stone that was quite heavy. Its weight qualified it to serve as an excellent paper weight. But it had very sharp edges that tore many a paper. There was another one, a brick, very heavy too and had no sharp edges. But when it got wet from the moisture when it rained outside, the brick soiled the papers. there was another stone, was very smooth and rounded, of medium size, It did a fairly good job, but due to its smoothness, an accidental touch or push would roll down the stone. There was one marble stone, which had a really pleasant tone and a moderate size. There were some more stones of large, moderate and small sizes, some being broken pieces of tiles, some decorative stones discarded from households. The smallest of them all was a stone that was somewhat geometric in shape and crystalline in nature.

The larger and moderate sized stones received better treatment from their master for being better paper weights while the smaller stones and the ones that could damage the paper was mostly overlooked and almost always unnoticed. But they yearned to be appreciated by their master, who always did that to their peers with more favorable sizes.

One day, the boy decided to throw off all the stones that did not serve his purpose. The stones to be discarded were deeply pained at their master's decision and their inability to win his appreciation. The big granite stone, the brick, the smooth stones, the little crystalline stone were mercilessly thrown out.

The stones lay there helplessly, in despair at their own unworthiness. One day, a mason passed that way and spotted the granite stone and the brick. He examined them carefully and thought they would make good candidates for construction, owing to their strength and has taken them along with him. The stones were happy to get a new master who valued them for what they are.

Another day, a small kid passing the same way was fascinated by the smooth, round stone. The stone seemed to be a good playmate for the kid. This stone was happy too, it got a master who dearly loved it and played with it.

The little crystalline stone now felt very lonely and insignificant as the days passed by and no one has taken any notice of it. The dejection and feeling of being unwanted haunted it all through. Finally, it declared its unworthiness to itself and became desensitised to all emotions and lay there bereft of life.

The very next moment, a learned geologist, passing that way took notice of this "small" stone, examined it and was awed! He found that this is a rare diamond with excellent refractive index! It shone brilliantly even with a single ray hat fell on it. The geologist thanked his fortune to have found this stone and handed it to a nearby museum, which gifted him handsomely for the contribution.

The diamond became the main attraction of the museum now. A couple of security guards were appointed specially to safeguard the attraction of the museum!!!

Spare a moment and think, is a "comparatively smaller stone" - the diamond useless because it cannot be a good paper weight?????